IMPACT vs. INTENT

 September: Cherokee Month of the Nut Moon.

“One day . . . or day one.” -- Anonymous

SEL:  #1 Self-Awareness  #2 Social Awareness   #4 Relationship Skills   

Digital Learner: #1 Empowered Learner                 #7 Innovative Designer

 

A kind word to one in trouble is often like a switch in a railroad track . . . an inch between wreck and smooth sailing.                                                                                                                                           – Henry Ward Beecher (1813-1887)

               Divorces happen. Business partnerships dissolve. Neighbors become antagonistic. 

The impact of what we say may be miles apart from our intent.

               “My impact when you said was . . . Did you mean it?”

               “No! I meant . . .”

               “I did not hear those words. The impact was hurtful to me. What did you mean?”

               “I meant  . . .”

               Some people are not yet skilled in clear communication. I can’t read their minds, and they can’t read mine. It’s my job to clarify, not judge. To ask for more information. To decide if I want to continue working there, be in a relationship, etc.

               I watch their actions. Does the map fit the territory? Is their behavior authentic with their intent? Can I predict the outcome of the behavior? If not, then I have a decision to make.

               I cannot change people. I can’t steer a parked car. I can’t push a rope. People do what they want to do. It may not include me anymore. I can accept it and move on. Or not. I can be mopey and stuck-in-the-sludge or decide to buffer my time, even with family members. It’s my choice and I make effective choices for me.

Aloha love,

Carla

Mission Statement: I am committed to being an effective member of the global digital community. Montana Cat Tales for Life-Long Learners, LLC publishes children’s picture books for ages 4-8, on earth science; emotions and feelings; and social-emotional learning (SEL). These books work to help children understand themselves, their place in the world through animal characters and human companions, and to find their authentic voice. They provide Learning-to-Learn Skills for Early Readers, sight-words, and phonics for academic enrichment. My chapter books are WWII historical fiction and help students to read between-the-lines while using critical thinking skills.

The 5 SEL Competencies:  Self-Awareness, Social Awareness, Self-Management, Relationship Skills, and Responsible Decision-Making. CASEL.org

I Have Digital Literary Skills: I can locate information: I use digital technology to effectively search for relevant and reliable information sources. I can evaluate sources: I analyze sources of digital information for credibility, bias, and influence. I can interpret meaning: I determine meaning from various digital sources that represent multiple perspectives. I can express my ideas: I create digital content to express myself and voice my ideas. I can communicate with others: I safely and responsibly collaborate with and learn from others online, including those who think differently than I do. I can navigate technological ecosystems: I’m aware that my online actions influence my digital landscape, I leave a trail, and impact my privacy.   getdigitalskills.com  ISTE.org

Commitments of a Digital Citizen: I am inclusive: I engage with others online with respect and empathy. I am informed: I evaluate the accuracy, perspective, and validity of online information. I am engaged: I use technology for civic engagement and to be a force for good. I am balanced: I prioritize my time and activities online and offline. I am alert: I know how to be safe online and create safe spaces for others.  digcitcommit.org  ISTE.org   

The 7 Competencies for Technology in Education: Empowered Learner: I use technology to set goals, work toward achieving them, and demonstrating my learning. Global Collaborator: I strive to broaden my perspective, understand others, and work effectively in teams using digital tools. Digital Citizen: I understand the rights, responsibilities, and opportunities of living, learning, and working in an interconnected digital world. Creative Communicator: I communicate effectively and express myself creatively using different tools, styles, formats, and digital media. Knowledge Constructor: I critically select, evaluate, and synthesize digital resources into a collection that reflects my learning and builds my knowledge. Computational Thinker: I identify authentic problems, work with data, and use a step-by-step process to automate solutions. Innovative Designer: I solve problems by creating new and imaginative solutions using a variety of digital tools. ISTE.org  

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