Social-Emotional Learning (SEL) for Everyone!

" One day . . . or day one.” -- Anonymous Cherokee Month of the Green Corn Moon SEL:  #2 Social Awareness          #4 Relationship Skills        Digital Learner: #2 Global Collaborator       #3 Digital Citizen   My brother is involved with a group of tremendously creative people who figured out a way to celebrate holidays during Covid-19 restrictions. With permission, on a Sunday afternoon, in an empty parking lot, they parked their cars 12 feet apart, required masks, then opened their trunks, hatchbacks, and van doors. For Halloween, everything was sealed in plastic bags piled high on each side: Sweets or Sours. Children in wheelchairs, others with siblings and friends got to trick-or-trunk safely.   For Easter, many non-sugar treats and toys were again, present in the hatchbacks and side doors of vans. Those who wanted jelly beans and chocolate rabbits were not disappointe...

“One day . . . or day one.” -- Anonymous Cherokee Month of the End of Fruit Moon SEL:  #1 Self-Awareness          #3 Self-Management Digital Learner:  #3 Digital Citizen I was watching a medical series this summer and noticed pockets of tears and pain triggered by the emotions of the characters. I’d done my grief work after my husband died four years ago. My friend started a widow’s support group for me the year before his passing. We said goodbye 1,000 times in the years preceding his death. Nevertheless, other grief work was not done and it began to squirt out sideways. As I explored my triggers, I discovered I had not grieved my Auntie’s death (mother’s older sister) in February, at age 99, because my husband was on hospice and died the following July, of the same year. He passed on a Friday. On Monday, I made a routine transfer of the property title, in the event of my sudden death, for one acre of land on a river now wor...

 " One day . . . or day one.” -- Anonymous Cherokee Month of the Ripe Corn Moon   SEL:  #4 Relationship Skills Digital Learner:  #7 Innovative Designer The little children in my neighborhood are quite resourceful. The traditional lemonade has been replaced with a pomegranate spritzer, still just $1. We live below a state park, and small rocks wash down into our street. I have many painted-rock paperweights, which l purchased for $2. Some have creatures, rainbows, or paw prints. One day, the little girls ran up to me with great excitement, “Guess what? We have glow-in-the-dark rocks!” I bought two, and placed them in a very dark hallway where my home could glow-in-the-dark. Support begins with, “I like you and I am your friend.” They understand even though young children do not have the language skills to express all of their feelings. A nearby rural school called me to sub one day but I had already left for another school. The principal told my husband, “...

“One day . . . or day one.” -- Anonymous Cherokee Month of the Green Corn Moon   SEL:   #1 Self-Awareness          #5 Responsible Decision-Making Digital Learner:  #3 Digital Center Sometimes, I do not want to do what I have to build my business. I become like an oppositional defiant (O.D.D.) child. I tell myself what I often tell my students, “You don’t have to like it, you just have to do it.” My feelings of “Yuk!”   leave me with some observations: “Who got me into this in the first place? Me.” “Whose fault is it? Theirs!” “What are you going to do about it? Nothing!” I grab my camera, breathe, and walk outside. I breathe and take zoom shots of the flowers, trees, birds, and sky. I wear my camera around my neck for two hours to capture the gold and red sunset amid dark thunder clouds. I post the beauties of Montana, USA on Instagram. I find when I honor my “inner child,” the world looks brighter, adult ta...

" One day . . . or day one.” -- Anonymous Cherokee Month of the Green Corn Moon   SEL:   #2 Social Awareness          #4 Relationship Skills Digital Learner:  #4 Creative Communicator   My friend says, “It’s not what happens to us. What’s important is, did we show up with our integrity?” In other words, did I offer that complicated person a chance to grow? I can stand, without expectation, in my truth. The other person’s opinions or actions are none of my business, especially during the atrocious aftermath of a betrayal. My job is to stand in my own integrity.   To the betrayer, I make this kind of sincere apology, “I’m sorry if my actions caused you any pain.” My subtext is, “Nevertheless, I’m going to do it again to keep these boundaries firm.” My voice is authentic. It can be heard quietly and it does not have be loud to be effective. Aloha love, Carla   I am committed to being an effective member of the global d...

“One day . . . or day one.” Anonymous Cherokee Month of the Planting Moon   SEL:   #3 Self-Management          #5 Responsible Decision Making Digital Learner: #5 Knowledge Constructor       #7 Innovative Designer I’d heard of PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) for a long time. What was new for me was PTG: post-traumatic growth ( Tedeschi and Calhoun, 1996 ). Regardless of the calamity, when the fire, tornado, hurricane or flood is over; when the accident, illness, bankruptcy or betrayal causing emotional devastation is done, another condition emerges. We find ourselves perplexed, exhausted, and still here, while facing an ugly reality we never dreamed possible. My friend in a wheelchair said, “You’re in post-traumatic growth.” “I’ve never heard of it.” “Oh, yes. You rebuild with whatever you have left. Just start a new life.” Oh, snap! OK. Just start a new life, she says. Many months later...

" One day . . . or day one.”  -- Anonymous Cherokee Month of the Planting Moon SEL:  #1 Self-Awareness           #2 Social Awareness           #3 Self-Management Digital Learner:  #2 Global Collaborator I recently did a curious thing: I bought a new spiral notebook for the gratitude journals I’ve kept for years and didn’t write anything in it for months. I felt like I was living in the land-of-Odd-and-Strange. A habit I had nurtured for decades disappeared. I mentally acknowledged gratitude, but it didn’t have the same effect as writing it down where I could reflect on it later. I like to write things down and let them incubate. I do that with new skills, fitness, etc. We all have a “shadow” side. Instead of berating myself and starting those self-inflicted “whispers of diminishment,” with awareness, I recognized that my behavior had changed. I had a choice: go back to ...