Social-Emotional Learning (SEL) for Everyone!

 " One day . . . or day one.” Anonymous Cherokee Month of the Cold Moon (du no lv ta ni)   SEL:   #3 Self-Management    SEL:   #4 Relationship Skills    Digital Learner:     #4 Creative Communicator Triangulation can poison relationships. When Person A goes to Person B and asks him or her to tell Person C something, this is not direct communication. Being direct, with compassion, takes practice to learn because we rarely hear about it. Person C can put a stop to this by going straight to Person A. Person B has no business in the middle of A and C’s business anyway. If Person C is complicated, the easiest way to resolve issues is to put everyone in the same room. A few ground rules: No sentence can begin with the word “You . . ,” since that constitutes an attack. Limit each person to three or four sentences at a time. (I was upset one time, rambled on, and my husband said, “That was 23 sentences. You must be highly stressed...

“One day . . . or day one.” Anonymous   Cherokee Month of the Cold Moon (v s gi ga)   SEL:   #3 Self-Management             #4 Relationship Skills                               Digital Learner:    #2 Global Collaborator   “Did I hear you say . . .?” “No. I said . . . “ “OK. Now I heard . . .” “Not quite, but close . . .”   “I need more information.” “Sure . . .Now, what did you hear me say?” “. . . That’s it?” “Yeppers!” “Woo-Hoo! Finally!”   The technique of mirroring back my understanding of a conversation can help to resolve conflict before it starts and to avoid wasted time on business teams. My perspective may not be correct even though we are speaking the same language. I learned from a tech this summer that, as a computer science major...